Wedding Budget

Typically the brides’ side of the family is responsible for paying for the wedding. In contemporary times this role isn’t as set in stone as it once was. Even if you aren’t entirely paying for the wedding, it is important you help your daughter properly budget the celebration.  This means deciding on a budget from the beginning of planning and sticking to it.

Keeping on Task

There are so many elements that go into a wedding, invitations, wedding dress, flowers, food, cake, venue, music, décor- you get the drift. It is important you keep your daughter on track.  It’s best to get started sooner than later, the average engagement period is approximately 8-12 months and with good reason. Keep in mind most wedding professionals need at least a couple months notice, depending on their profession.

Greeting Guests

You should be involved in helping to select the guest list.  Ultimately the final guest list is the bride and grooms call, but your say is important and may shed light on guests the couple has overlooked.  Be of assistance to out of town guests from the brides side, this means making reservations, arranging rides etc… essentially being at their convenience.  Before the ceremony and during the reception you should welcome guests, making sure they feel their presence is important- act as a host the entire evening.

If you are an outdoorsy couple why not plan an outdoor wedding?  In the Northwest this can be a bit tricky, we recommend you set a date in the late spring, summer or early fall months to avoid rain. And even then, discuss a back-up plan with your wedding coordinator to be safe. While most outdoor weddings tend to be on the beach or at a vineyard, feel free to get creative with it.  Forest weddings are often overlooked; we don’t see why as the enchanting environment provides a very romantic backdrop.  If you met at school and your old football field holds a special spot in your hearts, see if you can rent out the space.  Do you love to ski or snowboard? Head to the mountain and take a look around the premises. Just because a location doesn’t typically hold weddings, doesn’t mean they won’t- so don’t be scared to ask.

So you are set on an indoor wedding, but not in the traditional chapel or golf club. Think of a location you both love to spend time on your days off. Do you frequent a specific art museum? Or city library? Both of those options can provide very sophisticated backdrops that properly reflect who you are. Lets say you’re not the “intellectual couple”, but more fun, upbeat and perhaps a bit quirky? Visit your local zoo or aquarium; see if those are potential options- both of which would provide a fun and lively setting.

Remember, the most important part of booking your wedding venue is that it reflects you as a couple and properly accommodates your needs.  Obviously, you must consider the size of your wedding party, along with the décor you envision- but it’s also important you don’t rule out a venue that is right under your nose as it may just be in disguise.

The Wedding Lounge strongly recommends our venues of the lounge . If you are set on holding your wedding in the Northwest please check out these amazing locations.

Alderbrook Resort

Hotel DeLuxe

Jakes Catering, at the Governor’s Hotel

Window’s Skyroom at the Red Lion Hotel

The Bachelor Party

Figure out possible dates that will work for the groom and his main group of guys, you want to do this sooner than later.  After selecting a date, location and guest list keep the details on the down low. Bachelor parties are the most fun when the groom is left in the dark- but don’t hesitate to ask his friends for ideas!

It’s important the groom is excited, surprised but most of all comfortable.  Customize the events to fit his personality. If he is fairly low- key take him to a local comedy club, or his favorite pub. If he is a sports fanatic, reserve a box at a pro game.  If alcohol is involve in the festivities be sure to hire a car service (link Best Car in Town).  Last but certainly not least, have a good idea of the costs ahead of time.

Make a toast

The best man is typically expected to make a toast at the reception. Yes, standing up in front of a crowd can be intimidating, so it’s important to come properly prepared. A drink or two before hand is usually not a bad idea; three or four however is pushing it.

It is easiest to talk about what you know.  Recall moments you’ve shared in the past, both funny and touching.  Don’t forget to briefly mention the bride and how lucky he is to have found her. Make sure to keep the speech short; it should be under 3 minutes. The best man should not dread this moment of public display, the experience should be fun and exciting, after all your best friend only gets married once. As long as you stand confidently and speak clearly you will be great.

Assist the Groom Day of

The groom needs to do two things on his wedding day. Look great and be on time. That’s where you come in- it’s important you pay attention to detail.  His boutonniere should be on the left, his cummerbund pleats should face upward and for the love of god his dress socks should match his pants.  After giving him the once over, ask how he is doing, as the absolute most important duty of the best man is to be there for the groom on such a monumental day.

Years later Wendy is operating her own business, Flowers Exclusively by Wendy.  While she regularly takes on weddings, she also creates floral arrangements for all types of events.

When asked the hardest part of being a florist, Wendy points out components non-florists would most likely overlook.  Obviously you have to order precisely the correct amount of flowers, but after that you have to understand how flowers work. When they will bloom, how to keep them properly hydrated, the construction of specific plants. “Most people don’t understand the mechanics behind floral arrangements. There is a lot of prep.”

This day in age, the modern bride is drawn to the DIY wedding projects, including taking on floral arrangements, sans a florist. Bad idea. Very bad idea. Every year, Wendy receives at least one call from a panicked bride needing flowers fast. Despite her frustration, she will do everything she can to come through, but not without warning other brides of the potential consequences of taking on such a crucial role.

Wendy loves what she does, perhaps that has something to do with how talented she is. The best part of her job is bringing the bride’s vision to life. She prides herself on communication and intuition- she trusts her gut. If something doesn’t seem right, she will let you know. If you are a bride-to-be looking for a talented and trustworthy florist, we strongly suggest you call Wendy Warner for a consultation.

Then it hit him. He was to open an earth-friendly-organic home and garden store, which would obviously include floral. With bad timing, (the economic crash) he decided to curb his vision, and focus solely on flowers.

Years later Botanica Floral Design is thriving. The full-service floral company offers a wide range of jobs from corporate to memorials to everyday, but Josef has a soft spot for weddings. “I really love doing weddings. You get to be a part of a very special time in people’s lives.” He acknowledges the stress weddings can bring, but firmly believes the reward overrides it.

While Josef is pleased with the success of his growing business, he notes the frustrations that can go into creating floral arrangements and the hard (and endless) work that goes into building a business from scratch. For example, during his first year he only took a measly 6 days off. Total. Now that is commitment.

Years ago a former mentor told Josef, “You can teach technique, but you can’t teach talent.” Those words of wisdom have taught Josef to appreciate and utilize his artistic eye. His creative inspiration comes from the flowers themselves, “When I am at the market, it is like being a kid in a candy store.” When customers make unique requests Josef enjoys the challenge, as it really pushes his creativity.

The future looks bright for Botanica Floral Design. “I discovered many years ago that one creative idea can open the door to many more ideas and possibilities.” Josef eventually would love to expand his business to meet his original vision- a earth-friendly-organic home and garden store.  If you are looking for an artistic florist who is passionate about flowers and who pushes the boundaries, while being environmentally sound- we suggest you give Josef Reiter of Botanica Floral Design a call.

1. Communicate with your fiancé. It is very important the two of you are on the same page.  You can either write them together or separately.  If you choose to compose them apart don’t leave each other completely in the dark.  While your vows don’t have to be exactly the same, they should be similar in length and not too far off in voice and content.  Also, discuss if you want to reveal your vows before the wedding or save them for the ceremony.

2. Brainstorm.  Think all the way back to the day you met- what you were feeling, thinking, wearing, every possible detail you can remember will help ease the process.  Remember moments along the way: Where was your first date? First kiss? When did you fall in love? How did he/she propose? Etc…  Think of all the themes in your relationship: inside jokes, favorite songs and/or quotes- anything and everything between the two of you.

3. Start writing your vows.  Before putting that pen to the paper review how traditional vows are done. Discuss with your partner how (if at all) you want to specifically incorporate traditional elements.  Once your personal guidelines are set (length, voice, content, traditional elements) start writing.  After completing a fairly revised draft ask for your Officiant’s opinion, as he/she may have a suggestion or two.

Following these three simple steps will make your writing process easier.  After the vows are exchanged and the wedding is over don’t throw away or misplace your vows.  Keep them in a special place so the two of you can look back and cherish the very special day they were exchanged.

Upon entering on the corner of 14^th and Overton I looked on as eager brides were greeted by the friendly staff and handed gift bags.  The first room was occupied by none other than the Wedding Lounge, which turned out to be the best location in the house. Nearly all of our lounge players were in attendance. Le Cookie Monkey was serving a variety of treats, including delicious mini s’mores. Nearby was A Yen For Chocolate and SJ Dessert Company serving their own mouthwatering bites. The line at My Bartender was becoming increasingly longer as the night went on- everyone excited to try their soon- to- be- famous Blood Orange Gin and Tonics, but not to be outdone by Espresso Volare.  Our coffee connoisseur was serving her own lengthy line delicious espresso drinks. To the right Crave Catering was serving up Bacon Pear’d with Tofu that will not be easily forgotten.

The food and drinks were not the only hit in the Wedding Lounge section, as the ambience did not go overlooked. Barclay Event Rentals provided a stunning center table, complete with beautiful flower arrangements by Botanica Floral Design and Flowers by Wendy. My eye kept going to the beautifully captured reels of film Hybrid Moon had on display, located next to the Best Car in Town raffle give-away.  In the corner Paparazzi Tonight was gathering their own line, guests really couldn’t get enough of the photo fun photo.

As I made my way through the rest of the show rooms, separated by sheets covered in trendy décor I was mesmerized by the eclectic group of wedding professionals.  There was so much variety, something for every bride and groom.  At one end Ben and Jerry’s were serving up their well-known scoops, and at the other glamorous Stella & Dot jewelry was being tried on by several brides-to-be.  The energy running throughout the space was endless, I could feel excitement from the warm chatter, and smiles all around.

Around 7pm I heard the most charming voice known to man. Eric Wright, of All Wright Music, (also our MC & DJ for the evening) announced the upcoming fashion show. VIP brides took their front row seats and everyone else gathered around. There were ultimately five collections shown, each one with their own distinct style. My favorite, Embellished Design- it really doesn’t get much chicer than that. Every model waltzed down the steep steps and made their way to A Step Above’s custom stage, located at the end of the runway.

After the excitement of the fashion show wound down the future brides scurried back to the wedding professionals who had caught their eye and the friendly chatter picked back up.  I’m pleased to report the successful evening went on without a hitch and both the brides-to-be and wedding professionals left excited and fulfilled.

The best way to begin selecting song is to break down your ceremony and reception.

CEREMONY

Prelude: Music played as guests are arriving and taking their seats before the wedding ceremony begins.  Best to choose something a bit subdued, as they will want to mingle before things get underway.

All Wright Music’s Pick: Just Like Heaven by Vitamin String Quartet

Processional: Music played as important guests, as well as the bridal party makes their way down the aisle, your song should build a bit of anticipation leading up to the bride.

All Wright Music’s Pick: Pachelbel Meets U2 by Jon Schmidt

Brides Entrance: These days bridal entrance songs vary more than they use to.  While the traditional bride usually prefers ‘Here Comes the Bride’ the modern bride is opting for a different tune. Either way works.

All Wright Music’s Picks: Bridal Chorus by Aaron Meyer, Forever by Ben Harper

Interlude Music: Interlude music is played during a significant part of the ceremony, it may be during the lighting of a unity candle or a prayer.  This choice should be reflective of you as a couple.

All Wright Music’s Pick: Air One the F String by Jon Schmidt

Wedding Recessional: This is the music played when the newlyweds walk back up the aisle after the ceremony.  Most chose a joyous and upbeat song to get the celebration started.

All Wright Music’s Picks: I Do by Colbie Caillat, Marry You by Bruno Mars, Rhythm of Love by Plain White T’s

Postlude: After the bride and groom have vacated, the postlude music is played. This song should set the tone for the reception, most tend to continue with upbeat tunes to transition into the reception.

All Wright Music’s Picks: I’m a Believer by Smash Mouth Signed, Sealed, Delivered by Stevie Wonder

RECEPTION

First Dance: This is the first dance you will have as a married couple. It’s important you make sure this song properly represents your relationship. Make sure to have fun with it- there is really no reason to play it safe on this one!

All Wright Music’s Pick: First Day of My Life by Bright Eyes

Mother/Son Dance: This is the groom’s chance to honor his mother.  Similar to the first dance, chose a song that reflects your relationship. If you two tend to joke around go for something light and fun, or vise versa.

All Wright Music’s Pick: Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong

Father/Daughter Dance: This will most likely be one of the most emotional and sentimental parts of the reception.  It’s best to choose something that truly demonstrates your love and appreciation for your father.

All Wright Music’s Pick: Father & Daughter by Paul Simon

Anniversary Song: This song celebrates all of the happily married couples in attendance.  It’s best to choose romantic tunes that are full of meaning.

All Wright Music’s Pick: Through the Years by Kenny Rogers 

Dinner Music: During dinner you want to select light background music. This way your guests can enjoy each other’s company with a pleasant ambience.

All Wright Music’s Pick: Anything by Pink Martini

Bouquet/Garter Toss: This is the time to pull out the upbeat jams. Make sure to have fun- it doesn’t matter if you choose a hit from the 60’s or a popular song that just was recently released, as long as it’s light-hearted and upbeat your guests will enjoy.

All Wright Music’s Picks: Single Ladies and James Bond Theme

Last Dance: Wrap up the night with one last special song. It’s best to select a playful song that ends the evening on a positive note.

All Wright Music’s Pick: Good Life by OneRepublic

OLD

-Brides are saying good-bye to the old (and quite frankly washed up) handkerchief and welcoming a variety of heirlooms as their ‘something old.’  This is a great way to recognize your family.  This doesn’t mean you have to squeeze into your grandmother’s wedding dress- a great alternative is to replace your wedding dress buttons with hers.  If you would rather not wear your mother’s veil, why don’t you wrap it around your bouquet?  Talk to your mother and see what heirlooms you have access to, and then get creative.

NEW

-You’ve got the most freedom when selecting your ‘something new.’  Treat yourself. This is your chance to purchase something dear to you, an item you will want to pass on to your daughter on her wedding day. This item can be anything from a fancy perfume to a beautiful piece of jewelry.  Buy something you really want and have had your eye on for a while.

BORROWED

-This may be your most difficult item to select, as it may be tough to decide whom exactly you want to borrow from- remember to borrow from someone who is significant to you.  This could be your chance to borrow your sister’s diamond earrings (you know the ones she would never let you normally wear), or perhaps you will opt to wear your mother’s pearl necklace that has been passed down for generations.  Whatever you decide, think long and hard about this opportunity- and take advantage of it!

BLUE

-The most popular blue item (even to this day) is a lacy blue garter; while this option is acceptable don’t be scared to mix it up.  There are many ways to do this, depending if blue is in your color scheme. If it is- try cute blue heels, a small clutch, or beautiful sash. If blue isn’t one of your colors go for something a bit more subtle.  A piece of jewelry with a blue stone or blue lingerie are both great options.

For information: http://www.bravowedding.com/weddingaffair/show/january-2012-wedding-affair/

Cherie Ronning, Founder of the Wedding Lounge and Amy Prutch, 1/2 of AJ's Studio - Art of Joy Wedding Photography - aka The Lounge Divas, at the November Bravo Wedding Affair!